The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral,
begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy.
Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.
Through violence you may murder the liar,
but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth.
Through violence you may murder the hater,
but you do not murder hate.
In fact, violence merely increases hate.
So it goes.
Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
There was a new moon this evening. A new moon they say is a signal of completion and also initiation, both can be very powerful events. It is a time to look inside ourselves to take stock of our unconscious emotions and determine what it is we feel and want out of life. Not what we think we want or have been told to want but rather what we truly desire.
This is not something that is easily done but it is necessary exercise. It’s good practice of meta-cognition which is most simply described as “knowing about knowing” or self-regulation. When we can look within ourselves and see how stuck emotional and behavioral patterns keep us from what we truly want in life, we can consciously choose to dispose of those old patterns. In doing this we provide space for the new patterns we would like to adopt to help us achieve our goals.
Now I’m not saying this is something that is easy but if you choose to change just one thing at a time and make a concerted effort to establish that change you will be happy with how successful you can be. Whether it is to have an apple every day or smile more often each time you succeed in accomplishing your goal it will be that much easier the next time. The best advice I can give to ensure success is to be kind to yourself and forgive yourself if you are having trouble establishing a new habit and use it as motivation to keep moving in the direction to want.
So why not take this new moon to provide closure to habits that are no longer serving a good purpose for you and initiate a new habit that helps to increase your happiness.